UNDERSTANDING THE CAUSE OF CONFLITS IN MARRIAGES
No married man in his right mind wants to beat up his wife.
Then why does it happen?
For you to have the answer to this, you must first understand the cause of conflicts. 1 Corinthians 14:33 tells us, “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.” Furthermore, 2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” These scriptures show that God is not the cause; neither is it the man —by this, I mean a born-again man.
Ephesians 2:3 explains that those who are not born-again walk according to this world’s spirit, and anything can go for them. However, the born-again man has it in him to love his wife.
So why do we see such bad things even in good people? Jesus answered the question in Matthew 13:28, “He said unto them, An enemy hath done this. The servants said unto him, Wilt thou then that we go and gather them up?”
When Christians are off their guard, the enemy steps in and tries to destroy their lives. If you read the entire parable from verse 25, you would find that “while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way.”
Don’t sleep spiritually!
Ephesians 4:27 says, “Neither give place to the devil.” Apostle Paul was talking to the Ephesian Church that had spirit-filled with tongue-talking members. This means a Spirit-filled, tongue-talking person can give the devil a place if he allows it.
How can it happen? By ruminating on negative thoughts like anger, bitterness, envy, and unforgiveness. When that happens, the devil can step into his mind and cause him to do things that he’d eventually regret. After the fact, most times, you hear such folks say ‘it’s the devil.’ It is rightly so, only that they gave him the place to operate. It is important to note that the devil can’t possess a Spirit-filled (in-dwelling) person because The Holy Spirit dwells in his spirit; However, his mind can be occupied.
Wife, if your husband charges at you to hit you, TAKE COVER FIRST. Then you shout with a loud voice SATAN IN THE NAME OF JESUS, I REBUKE YOU! That devil will checkout, and he’ll come back to his usual loving self and apologize to you. Husband, if you find that you have such tendencies, declare SATAN IN THE NAME OF JESUS GET OUT OF MY MIND!
James 4:7 “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you”. If you heed God’s instruction, then you can have a lovely and happy home.
I pray for you today that the God of peace will fill your home today with love, harmony, and perfect understanding in JESUS NAME!